Homily for the 27th Sunday in Ordinary Time
Ss Peter and Paul Catholic Church
3 October 2021
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When I started college seminary, we took a class in basic philosophy. One of the very first lessons in basic philosophy is being able to make the distinction between “either/or†statements and “both/and†statements. The idea was to cultivate the skill of nuanced thinking. Being able to recognize and hold in tension several different ideas, points of view, or true statements – not in a relativistic way (you have your truth and I have my truth and weâ€
I always thought that learning something as simple as “either/or†and “both/and†was kind of elementary, and in a way it is. But I have to admit that I am so surprised at how often disagreements between people about basic things and about the deep things of life come from the inability to think about things in a nuanced and rational way. The greatest obstacle against unity between people is the inability to consider another someone else might have something true to say, and the second greatest obstacle to unity is lie that if I welcome a different side of the story or listen to someone with whom I disagree that I am somehow sacrificing something of my dignity or strength, or that to hold true things in tension with each other is in some way abandoning the truth.Â
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There are of course some either/or, non-negotiables. It really is either Cubs or Sox, and we all know itâ€
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To be open another side of things is not a defeat, or an abandonment of values…sometimes itâ€
This week all the priests of the Diocese of Joliet were together with Bishop Hicks for the first time since he was installed in Joliet last year for our bi-annual convocation. The theme this year was “Cultivating Unity†in our presbyterate. The same divisions we find in the culture – left, right, up, down, this, that – are found not only in our parishes but also in between the priests. As part of the exercises this week, priests from different age groups were asked to give witness talks about their understanding of priestly life and ministry in an effort to shed some light on what motivates them and their thinking.Â
One of the talks centered on the idea of orthodoxy versus heterodoxy. Remember that orthodoxy means “right praise†in Greek, but has come to be more known as the category to which those who believe in the doctrine and Tradition of the Church, especially in the areas of morality, the liturgy, and legitimate authority. (Heterodoxy is just the word to describe the opposite).Â
Anyway, this priest said that the problem in our presbyterate is not orthodoxy vs heterodoxy, but that the problem is instead that orthodoxy needs to be “accepted and transcended†in favor of orthopraxy – right practice.Â
This priest was right, in a sense. Priests who stand in the person of Christ are called to be who he is and do what he does: think of the beautiful line from Isaiah and read by Jesus in Lukeâ€
If youâ€
Thatâ€
At the end of the week, a younger priest got up and gave the more recently ordained priestsâ€
What will be the way? It will be a combination of the things that in yesterdayâ€
There canâ€
“Go, and sin no more.â€Â
“Faith has saved you.â€Â
He flipped over tables, he outsmarted the righteous, and he always, always, called people away from sin and toward the Truth.Â
The Church is always teaching us an ideal, toward which each one of us must set our heading. We are taught an ideal, and are given the grace to move toward it but that ideal has to be something that we want, and the grace is something that we have to want to receive. The ideal is that one day we might live Godâ€
This weekend, we hear difficult readings about the very painful topic of divorce and, by extension, about the dignity of marriage. My own parents have been divorced since I was 13. I would venture to guess that a higher number of people in this church today than youâ€
We know what Jesus taught, and what the Church affirms, about divorce. It isnâ€
No, humans have the ability to discern and choose, and enter into real partnerships and friendships with each other. God is a trinity, he is Father and Son and Holy Spirit.
God is a community.
God is three persons, intimately bound together into one divine Godhead. The marital union is a mirror of God: a lover, a beloved, and the new life which is the fruit of their love. Marriage is holy because it is a mirror of God!Â
We read this morning from the Letter to the Hebrews, which tells us that Jesus was “for a little while†made “lower than the angels.†Jesus has walked among us and understands for himself the difficulties of human relationships. Nobodyâ€
But what about those who have had a divorce? What about those who are divorced and remarried? What about those who are children of a divorce? What does the Church say about that?Â
If you are in any of those categories mentioned above, you are welcome here and there is a place for you in the Church and despite everything God is still overflowing with love for you.Â
If you are in a troubled marriage, there are resources for you. If you need help finding them, please come talk to one of the priests and we will help you. A troubled marriage is not destined for failure.Â
If you are divorced and remarried without an annulment, I understand that that process can be very painful and difficult. But please consider your spiritual health and taking steps to regularize your situation. Same thing if you are living with someone in a spousal way to whom you are not married. Let the priests and pastoral staff here help you navigate the process to regularize your situation so that you can be free in your relationships and enjoy restored confidence in your relationship with God.Â
If you are a child of divorce, please hear me when I say that God is your Father and he is not going anywhere. That feeling you get when you make a new friend or form a new relationship, the fear of abandonment or the temptation to cling to others in relationships does not need to last forever.Â
The teaching of the Church and the desire to encounter each other in mercy and be seen in our pain are not opposed…they are two sides of the same coin. Through the Church, God proposes to each of us a beautiful ideal of human sexuality and relationships. He does not abandon us on our lifelong apprenticeship as we come to know this plan and begin to live it.Â
It does not need to be “either perfect marriage or Godâ€
Most of the time itâ€
All you lowly, come and eat from this table and begin to taste the healing and freedom that come only from God.Â
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